Betty Lehman

Betty Lehman

Today’s Word from Pastor Jim…

It was 69 years ago. The population of Island County was holding steady at 11,000. Dwight Eisenhower had moved into the Oval Office. Elizabeth II was crowned Queen of the United Kingdom. The Korean War had just ended. The unknown Elvis Presley put his voice on vinyl for the first time.

It was 69 years ago when the Lutherans in Freeland dreamed of a church. They had no building, they had no money, they did not have their own pastor. It was 69 years ago that 21 adults and 16 children signed a charter and pledged their support to Trinity Lutheran Church in Freeland.

It was 69 years ago when a young mother by the name of Betty Lehman picked up a pen and signed that charter. Betty was number 16 out of 37. What followed was 69 years of service. Betty remained faithful for 69 years. Her twins would be the first babies baptized at the newly formed Trinity Lutheran Church.

There would be many lean and challenging years ahead for Betty and the church she loved. When church council president Pete Peterson announced the plans to build a new church on Highway 525, the building budget was $5,000.

Betty’s children grew up, grandchildren were born, she stood at graveside to say goodbye to her husband, Wally.

When I arrived in the Fall of 1989, Betty was slow to warm up to me. She called me “Sir.” And even though I hugged most everyone, Betty made it clear that that did not apply to her. She called me “Sir.”

Sixty-six years after signing that charter, after a journey of 93 years, Betty was frail and failing. I visited her in the hospital in November of 2019. She was worried and anxious, but she told me that her faith was stronger than her anxiety. She said, “I close my eyes and say the Lord’s Prayer and I know that I am not alone.” We were holding hands now. Two hands that had barely touched in 30 years. There was a tear in her eye. She thanked me for sitting with her, she squeezed my hand and said, “I love you.” I walked to my car in the hospital parking lot and cried before driving home.

Betty died early this week, on Valentine’s Day. No more pain, no more sorrow, no more tears. She crossed over to a heavenly reunion with Wally, her dear parents, old friends, and many Trinity Saints who had gone before her.

Sixty-nine years ago, 37 people believed in TLC and that belief led to the birth of our church. Thirty-five of those 37 Charter members are gone. We stand in an unbroken line; we care for this precious gift that has been entrusted to us.

Thank you, Betty. Thank you for believing and serving for 69 years. We will see you on the other side.

With Love, Sir

Eight Funerals and a Wedding

Eight Funerals and a Wedding

Today’s Word from Pastor Jim_

_“For everything there is a season and a time for every matter under heaven.”_ Ecclesiastes 3

We currently have eight funerals, or graveside services, scheduled at TLC. We also have two of our members on Hospice Care. Among the funerals is the celebration of the life of Web Halvorsen. At 103, Web was the oldest member of our church. He was a part of the greatest generation and the largest invasion force in history. Web hit the beaches of Normandy on June 6, 1944. Seventy-seven years later he was able to remember every detail, liberating France, hiding in a ditch, taking a bullet in the chest, and having coffee on the front lines with General George Patton. I don’t expect that I will ever meet another man quite like Web. Our condolences to his wife, 101-years young Marion.

A young adult asked me about death this week. I told her that there was a big difference between getting hit by a bus at 40 and dying at 90. Death out of season is disruptive to our sense of order; the grief is more palatable and longer lasting. Death after a journey of nine or more decades is usually quite peaceful and free of fear.

Our lives begin to shrink sometime in our twenties. We no longer find it necessary to party all night, we quit jumping out of planes (unless you are Trudy Martin), and our body metabolism begins to change. None of this is sad; it is simply maturity, the passing of time, the natural process of aging. Before you know it, we are not staying up ‘til midnight, long plane rides are unattractive, and we never pass up the opportunity to use the bathroom. Our expanding universe begins to contract, home is our sanctuary, and routine is comforting.

There are times and seasons for every matter under heaven.

In the normal course of life, at the end of a long journey, the elders in our midst are tired, weak, and worn. They have lived and loved and stood at graveside to say goodbye to parents, spouse, friends, and sometimes children. Death no longer becomes the enemy. Death becomes a mysterious return home. We get no choice in the timing of our birth; we do not get to choose our parents or siblings. Life comes to us as an inexplicable gift, every day new and filled with joy and sorrow. Death comes to us in much the same way; our frail flesh returns to the earth, and we return to God. It does not matter if we believe it or not. Reality is not dependent upon our belief or understanding. We come from God and we will return to God. What is so scary about that?

Eight funerals, but also one wedding. For everything there is a season.

One day closer,
Pastor Jim

 

The Rim of Life

The Rim of Life

Today’s Word from Pastor Tom…

“For you make me glad by your deeds, O Lord; I sing for joy at the works of your hands. “ Psalm 92.4

With one day yet of travel, we are 3,400 miles into this adventure. When it comes to car travel our typical MO is to load the car and get to our destination as quickly as possible, i.e., Interstate Highway with cruise control at speed limit plus 4. Picking a different drive-thru constitutes an adventure. So much for the romance of the highway. I suspect you are not surprised.

This was different. For whatever reason I had long held a fascination with the notion of visiting Death Valley. Brenda held a similar dream for the Grand Canyon. And so, we plotted our trip with potential highlighted routes on our AAA map. We left gaps in the calendar for spontaneous excursions (What? You didn’t think I could do that?), and assumed we would find a place to rest at night. We did, though not always within 100 miles of where we had anticipated.

Along the way we enjoyed the hospitality of friends and family. This has been a life-giving adventure. Did you know there is a golf course in Death Valley? Furnace Creek Golf Course, elevation 214 feet below sea level. The lowest elevation golf course in America. Perfect in January, not so perfect in July. There are ponds on the golf course for goodness sakes! Wait, wait! There’s obviously more to the desolation of Death Valley than an unexpected golf course. Death Valley, in its simplicity, is beautiful!

We spent two days touring this amazing National Park and hungered for more. We will return. Dante’s View, complete with a drive up a 15% grade left us awed by the simple beauty of this seemingly barren landscape. Isn’t that how paradox works? Out of what at first appears barren, is a surprising complex life.

The only thing surprising about The Grand Canyon is the inadequacy of words to describe what the eyes are drowning in as one stands on the rim of the canyon attempting to take it all in. Capturing the moment by photos is such a shallow effort. Yet, we tried, as has everyone else who has stood for the first time on the edge of a million-years old creation — jaw-drop stunning.

So, here I sit musing over our not quite finished travel adventure, struggling for adjectives to describe the grandeur of creation, and wondering what it would look like if we felt a similar inadequacy to describe God’s love for us? If I were to stretch the analogy, I wonder if our faith is at times in danger of becoming perfunctory? Getting on the Interstate, grabbing some fast food while seldom stopping by the Rim of Life never really being awestruck by how much God loves us?

That’s what grabbed St. Paul. As a self-described perfect religious authority, he was at a loss to describe God’s grace that had saved him. Well, never at a loss for very long, he nonetheless stood on the Rim of Life and wrote at length in an attempt to describe the length and breadth of God’s love for us. “For while we were yet sinners Christ died for the ungodly.” Romans 5:6. At our absolute worst God loved us enough to die, in the flesh of Jesus, an innocent’s death that the world would be reconciled to God. Wow, what a view! To quote the Norwegian bard (my mother), “Uff da!”

Okay, looking forward to seeing you all soon. Continued prayers for safe travel always appreciated.

Love and peace,
Pastor Tom

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Where Do You Want to Start?

Where Do You Want to Start?

Today’s Word from Pastor Jim…

“I lift up my eyes to the hills, from where is my help to come? My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth.”
Psalm 121

Sometimes, when catching up with an old friend, or sitting down with a coworker, the first question is, “Where do you want to start?” The start of such conversations is important. There is so much to cover. There are so many words to be said, thoughts and stories to be shared. The conversation, like life, will be fraught with segues, detours, distractions, and interruptions. Phones vibrate, waiters need your order, children pull on your sleeve, your mind reminds you to pick up the dry cleaning. It is pretty easy to lose track of details.

Where do you want to start? It is an important question. Where you start will set the tone for the entire conversation. If there is a critical conversation point, it is probably best to address it early on, or it may be lost in the circuitous nature of human interaction.

Where do you want to start? I want to encourage you to ask yourself that question every morning, every night before resting your head on your pillow, every time you share a meal or say your prayers. Where you start matters.

I had the opportunity to share a meal with a couple in our parish this past week. 2021 had not been particularly kind to them. Compromised health has permanently changed the trajectory of their lives. Their shared life would never be the same.

We ordered our lunch and set out to catch up; after all, I had not talked to them since returning from Sabbatical. “Where should we start?” I asked. The response was immediate and heartwarming, “We choose to start with gratitude.” They continued to express their thanks for all that they had, for the many years of good health, for far-flung adventures and the gift of living life on Whidbey Island. “We choose to start with gratitude.” What a beautiful choice, a lifegiving choice, an appropriate choice for people who have experienced blessings and opportunities unheard of in previous generations, unimaginable to most of the world.

“We choose to start with gratitude.” To be honest, these are the kind of people I want to spend time with. I felt better after breaking bread with them; my own pandemic attitude had been adjusted. I am thinking that if we would choose to start with gratitude, that we would be more healthy, less stressed, more optimistic, and more fun to be around. There is plenty of bad news to go around; our bodies are aging, life throws curve balls to everyone, but if we open our eyes, we will be greeted each day with an amazing array of blessings.

We choose to start with gratitude. Let’s make it a habit of starting there.

One day closer,
Pastor Jim

That’s the Deal

That’s the Deal

Today’s Word from Karl Olsen…

“In love, it’s only those who trust each other, who can make it until the end.” Auliq Ice

“…in sickness and health, as long as we both shall live.” Spoken by millions of lovers…

In my life as a musician, I’ve been part of many weddings. (Way more memorial services and funerals than weddings—you can draw your own conclusions about that!) But lots of weddings. One wedding of my own, several for family members and friends, and a bunch for acquaintances and people who just needed a musician.

As part of these ceremonies, many words were spoken, both to and by the couple. A lot of those words were just barely heard by the two getting married, and many of them will be forgotten; in the case of young couples, it’s likely that they won’t get the full impact of what they’re hearing or saying. In fairness to them, really, how could they?

We’ve had a few weddings at Trinity involving couples who were in their 70s, 80s, or even 90s. And one of Pastor Jim’s best lines in those circumstances goes something like ‘this is very different from most weddings I perform. That 20-something couple standing in front of me promising to love each other through the best and worst of what’s to come really have no idea what they’re promising! But you two have a clue!’

After the rings are on, the toasts are given, and the wedding feast is completed, it doesn’t take long for all the many and varied aspects of life to give some context to those vows. In a song I wrote for Deb at our 17th anniversary, I said “Through the kids, the jobs and daily grind, it can wear you down; might lose your mind.” And at 20 years, it was “We were sure there were gonna be some changes comin’, but we had no idea.”

And the hits… the changes, just keep on comin’! That’s the deal. The wedding song I write for our 33rd will likely feel a little less panicked, but no less aware of the reality of that incredible lived experience. I am so lucky.

“And these things I promise you…” So begin the vows from a Lutheran wedding ceremony. Another part says they promise before God that “I will respect, trust, help, and care for you.” And in a Presbyterian ceremony, there’s the lovely promise to be with each other “in all faith and tenderness.” In a Unitarian Universalist proceeding the promise is “to honor and tenderly care [for one another] through all the changes in your lives.” And a gift from an Apache ceremony says “Now there will be no more loneliness, for each of you will be companion to the other.”

Promises. Vows. One of the blessings of being in this community for over 30 years is getting to observe the steady faithfulness of so many couples, living out the promises they made so long ago. Some have now gone, but it is always happening—a continuous line of grace, witnessing partners whose lovers barely recognize them now, or who are now confined to a bed or chair rather than the hikes and bike rides of the previous 70 years. And still, they walk together as they are able, talk, listen, stroke a hand, and would gladly trade places if they could.

Ashley Duval of the Grit and Grace Project says, “’vow,’ by definition in verb form, is to ‘solemnly promise to do a specified thing.’ When we stand in front of each other, we say the noun part and make the solemn promise. But in marriage when they are put into play, they turn into a verb, and we walk that promise out.”

It is no small thing that, by God’s grace, we are allowed to walk this journey of companionship with one another. That’s the truth. That’s the deal.

Mark Pearson introduced me to this song by Hugh Prestwood some years ago. I hope it speaks to you as it spoke to me, and still does to this day. That’s the Deal.

Click here to listen to my version.

Karl

That’s the Deal
Written by: Hugh Prestwood, BMI
Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group
Arr. Karl Olsen
Used by permission, CCS #11033

Humility

Humility

Today’s Word from Pastor Jim…

There are many attributes that are universally accepted by humans of all races, religions, and nationalities. Included on the list would be kindness, compassion, mercy, hospitality, honesty, integrity, dependability, creativity, determination, courage, patience, loyalty, cooperation, caring, generosity, maturity, and self-control. I could make a case for each, but there is no need; as I said they are universally accepted. The world would be a better place if people everywhere would aspire to live in accordance with these attributes.

As I read the list, while looking at my reflection in the mirror, I am painfully reminded of how often I have failed in achieving these human attributes. If I am honest with myself, the truth would reveal that I fall short of my aspirations daily. I often lose my courage; I am not known as the most patient of men, and once on the golf course, I lost my self-control. I am honest most of the time; I display maturity except when I don’t. Compassion and mercy are sometimes hidden behind my self-righteous attitude.

It is very hard to be human. It is almost impossible to live a life of integrity. Our investments, our government, and our multinationals are far from clean. The security that we enjoy is often at the expense of others; we are against border walls, but live in gated communities with home security systems. Many of us are deeply concerned about creation care, so we recycle, and we raise money on Facebook to support the rainforest. Of course, we also live in 3,000 square foot homes that sit empty as we escape to an Airbnb. We have two cars, we fly to far-off lands, and we eat red meat, leaving behind a carbon footprint the size of Elon Musk’s bank account. The truth: we are addicted to energy, consumption, the next Amazon order, and a lifestyle that will ultimately prove to be unsustainable.

All of that, and I am still looking in the mirror; I have not even had a chance to consider your life. I have great admiration for the positive attributes listed above, but perhaps I value humility most of all. Humility grounded in the recognition that my life is one hypocrisy after another, with only brief interludes of honesty, integrity, patience, and kindness. I don’t like this part of being human, this free-will gift that often leads me to look out for number one.

Humility. Let us be slow to judge others. Let us not think that we have a corner on the market of truth or wisdom. Let us be kind to every poor human who is carrying a heavy load and trying to survive. May our hypocrisy, once recognized, hold in check our propensity to arrogance.

Let’s work on the list above and let humility guide our steps. It is very hard to be a human.

In love, I am one beggar telling other beggars where to find bread.

Pastor Jim